A very common perception in reality says that men who have been with more women are more masculine, more successful, etc.? Is this really true? Read and decide for yourself
Another myth that I want to destroy here.
The urban myth that claims men who have had sex with more women are more masculine or more valuable, etc.
Having sex with many women is not particularly difficult. Our sages taught us that just as a calf wants to suckle, there is a cow that wants to nurse even more.
Thus, it turns out that it's a mutual thing, just as a man wants to give, there is a woman who wants to receive (and according to the aforementioned parable, it's more urgent for the man to give than for the woman to receive – men have on average 17 times more testosterone than women and sexual energy is more active and motivating for action in men)
Therefore, it seems quite simple for any man to have sex with women according to his level.
And because there are many women at various levels and many men at various levels – it is possible for a man at any level to have sex with dozens or hundreds of women relatively easily, even if he is impotent, unhealthy, autistic, ugly, smelly, etc. – there are women who also fit these definitions and it will presumably be fine for them or maybe even an advantage that those men will be like them.
In fact, I want to reduce the greatness of the numbers, of the quantities.
In recent years, I've had hundreds of paying clients and thousands of men we've spoken with. A large portion of them had been with over 70 women, 100 women, and even more than 300 women.
Those men are not special or different or smart or beautiful or tall or strong compared to other men, and the reason they went to these relatively extreme places is not because of mere horniness or a desire for variety.
Rather, usually men go to women to get validation that they are masculine and that women want them, to compensate for a childhood where things didn't go well for them and they thought they themselves were not okay because of it.
Not saying that all men who have been with quantities is because things didn't go well for them, absolutely not, there are men whose Venus is simply in Sagittarius or sees Jupiter and this simply potentially increases the number of partners or one night stands.
Additionally, the argument for variety is not correct because men are attracted to a certain image of a woman that is written in their subconscious when they are born into the world and they simply look for women who are as close as possible to the image written in their subconscious (see my post about templates that there are about 300 main types of faces and that everything is limited including body structures, etc. in the material world) and with whom they have relationships.
This is not true in all cases, but in my current opinion, it is true in most cases.
A man who has had sex with many women, therefore, is equal in my view to a man who has visited many pizzerias or a man who has eaten many types of donuts every year during Hanukkah… In both cases, that man has put energy, time, and money into pursuing earthly desires (and don't misunderstand in any way that I'm recommending withdrawing from earthly desires)
Now let's add to the above the position of the Holy Torah on the subject, for the Torah is a divine document that Moses received on Mount Sinai in front of millions of Israelites and therefore what is written in it is truth and an immutable law of nature! (I have never found an error in the Torah, if I ever do I will be ready in a second to change my mind)
Thus it is written in that Holy Torah:
“Speak to the entire assembly of the children of Israel and say to them: You shall be holy, for I, the Lord your God, am holy” Leviticus 19:2
I'll clarify: Adam (man) means 'earth' to the Most High.
The soul within us was created in His image and likeness, when God created Adam He breathed into him the breath of life, He breathed into Adam a part of Himself.
Our goal, according to the Kabbalists, is essentially to reach a state of equivalence of form with the Creator, meaning to transform “the desire to receive” into “the desire to receive in order to give”, that is, to become a conduit that flows abundance and in this way also enjoys much more and lives in greater spiritual, energetic, and material abundance.
It is written in the above verse that God is holy, and therefore we shall be holy. The question arises, what does it mean to be holy?
We can understand the meaning of 'you shall be holy' according to the previous chapter, Leviticus 18, where God describes the prohibitions of incest, detailing in which situations it is forbidden to have sexual relations, such as:
13 You shall not uncover the nakedness of your mother's sister, for she is your mother's flesh.
23 And you shall not lie with any animal to defile yourself with it, nor shall any woman stand before an animal to lie with it; it is perversion.
And thus God concludes the chapter: "24 Do not defile yourselves with any of these things; for by all these the nations are defiled, which I am casting out before you. 25 For the land is defiled; therefore I visit the punishment of its iniquity upon it, and the land vomits out its inhabitants. 26 You shall therefore keep My statutes and My judgments, and shall not commit any of these abominations, either any of your own nation or any stranger who dwells among you 27 (for all these abominations the men of the land have done, who were before you, and thus the land is defiled), 28 lest the land vomit you out also when you defile it, as it vomited out the nations that were before you. 29 For whoever commits any of these abominations, the persons who commit them shall be cut off from among their people. 30 Therefore you shall keep My ordinance, so that you do not commit any of these abominable customs which were committed before you, and that you do not defile yourselves by them: I am the Lord your God."
I don't think we need to elaborate, it's very clear what is said here.
Rashi, the greatest Torah commentator, in his explanation of "you shall be holy," directly refers to sexuality. Why? Probably because of the proximity of chapter 19 to chapter 18.
And these are his words:
“You shall be holy” – Be separate from sexual immorality and from sin, for wherever you find a fence against sexual immorality, you find holiness.
(Ervah means the place of sexual organs. Arayot is the plural form of ervah)
In summary, my recommendation, which is learned both from the Torah and from common sense and rich life experience – sanctify (dedicate, elevate) your body and your soul and refrain from having sexual relations with quantity, I recommend going for depth and quality instead.
Now, let everyone do what they understand to be right, each person according to their current level of development.
Additionally, I want to clarify very well that I am not writing this article to condemn those men who have been with many women, and I am not claiming that there is a flaw in them or that perhaps they all did it because of a lack of success with women in childhood, etc “etc” – absolutely not.
The purpose of the article is not to go against individuals but to go against the phenomenon itself.
Presented as a public service, with love for everyone and without any judgment or criticism,
Osher Shmueли 
